I Don't Know Who Else To Go To

I need some advice on what I should do and I trust you guys as much as my real friends to guide me in the right direction. Anyways, this involves some kids at my school that I used to be really close friends with.

Me and James were close friends until his girlfriend said I made threats to her, which I never did. This led to us getting into a fight last September. Well he's friends with my other friend Dylan, who is dating my ex, Jessie. He hates me and doesn't have a reason. My ex is causing hell between us.

Last Friday, I started my day off talking to my vice principal in charge of discipline, Mr. VanMetre about Dylan, James, and Jessie driving by my house 5 times the night before and burning out in my driveway. I let him know what was going on to keep him informed so he could watch me and my girlfriend at lunch, because they said they wanted to talk to me at lunch.

Lunch came and it was normal, but not for long. I got my food and went and sat down. Dylan and 7 of his firends came up and surrounded my table. Mr. VanMetre cam up and sat down to keep things in order. I told them that if they pulled anything else on me, I was gonna let the cops handle it.

Later on in class, I received a death threatening voicemail from one of their friends who was with them at lunch, Sam, and I did what I thought was best, talk to Mr. VanMetre. I've known Mr. VanMetre since the 6th grade (I'm in the 11th now) and he knows me better than anybody else that I would jump in and handle this my own way, but it would hurt me big time.

I went to his office asap becuase I was afraid they would do something to me because right after that talk, they left school and was skipping. I wait afterschool for about 20 minutes to get picked up and they know that.

I talked to Mr. VanMetre and the school cop and they heard the voicemail. They knew who it was. They put me in the office for the last 20 minutes of school for my own safety and they talked to Sam. They expelled him and the school cop set it up to press charges.

Monday at lunch, my firend Jaimie came up to me and asked to borrow my phone to call her mom. I let her because I thought I could trust her. I went up to her 5 minutes later and she said some kid came up and stole it.

I went back up to Mr. VanMetre later to see if anyone turned it in. I told him about Jaimie and he called her up. Jaimie told me that one of her friends that are friends with Sam took it and smashed it and threw it in the trash. Mr. VanMetre called Jaimie up to his office yesterday and he got the name of a few kids that she gave him. He's been calling them kids up since yesterday and trying to get to the bottom of this.

Since then though, I've been pushed, harassed, called a snitch, talked about, shunned by some of my friends, and physically bullied around. I just don't know what to do at this point. I received a message on Myspace at 11pm that I printed out to show to Mr. VanMetre. It basically said that I'm gonna be jumped in the next few days at lunch.

So please give me your thoughts on what I should do to handle this. Thanks guys

[jayman]

dont do anything, just keep posting stuf like this and i'll be entertained..
but if you must recieve my advice i sugesst that when you turn 16 an get your liscence get the biggest truck you can find and put even bigger wheels on it..
that oughta make you feel better in the "short" term..

Just keep telling the principal and proper authorities that you have some old friends who are assholes.

Its high school, this kinda crap happens at every school to almost every kid. People think its cool to be a jerk, and they keep escalating it because they think it makes them look cool.

It'll settle down eventually. I'd recommend hitting the gym just encase you have to defend yourself. If things get way too out of hand, and going to school every day is an butt kicking, name calling, and physical abuse, than I'd talk to my parents and ask if I can move schools.

Or you can just total own all these idiots in a brawl, something like 1 on 6, and still kick their butts, that will help you.

No one deserves to get treated like this. Honestly I'd suspect this kind of behavior from middle schoolers, not high schoolers. Maybe make some new friends and leave all of these people behind?

the big question is do you really think they will do anything or are they just empty threats?

edit: hahaha ragen you havnt been to high school for a while this shiz happend all the time

I graduated 7 months ago... maybe my school was different or yours is?!?

yea mines a light version of his im guessing but hella people that got expelled seem like those kids. Funny thing is some of them have the same name XD

School really hasn't changed, just the people. Yea I could just change schools since I'm near the county line for schools. Only problem is the other school is waaay worse than mine. Let's just say us white folk are outnumbered at the school and they just had someone attempt to bring a gun in after the principal. Yea I could just lay low, but they would eventually catch up to me. School sucks the worse and I only have 1 more year of it. I'm already 17 and I'm still lookin for a job. My parents and I have been talking about just packing up and moving to Florida [:p]

i live in the uk and i oviously know that here is totally diffrent to where you are.

my advise is stick it out, keep doing what you are doing at the moment and dont let them win especially since you only have 1 more year at school.
things wil even tually sort themselves out and get back to a manageable situation but just seems that at the moment its all blown up. stick it out, let it settle and dont give in to them.

just keep your head up and dont react to there threats to show them your more of a man than these oviously imature kids

I would suggest you just stay low for the time being. I would also suggest you cut all ties with them. Don't even bother keeping friends who are friends with them, that will only cause more trouble.

Keep collecting evidence of their threatening behavior and if one day you really do feel your safety is genuinely threatened, just bypass your principal and school officer and goto an actual police station. This means take photos of their burn out marks, keep a copy of the voice mails, emails etc.

There is not really anything more humiliating than getting ripped out of class by two police officers.

If they have any amount of integrity, they will eventually realize that this is nothing buy teenage bull crap and move on with their insignificant lives.

Petrol bomb thier houses, burn thier mothers alive then round them all up and slowly torture them, rupping them from limb to limb

[jayman]

do you live in a trailer?

There is not really anything more humiliating than getting ripped out of class by two police officers.

Even more humiliating when they arrest you right there and start reading you your rights. Oh memories, I miss that part of HS. [:D]

[TheArchitect]

Make new friends, seriously. In my experience, new friends have always bee the way out. where ever you go your problems follow, you'll just get bullied for being the new kid. Going to this bloke is obviously helping, but damaging your rep big time.

Make new friends, decent ones, not people who are already bully-victims.
Stick up for yourself though, but not excessively. Try to find out thier limit too.

There is ONLY ONE solution for this.Do you own a gun?

if you can....try and talk to other people and make new friends because people that you think you can't trust....arn't your realy friends

my opinion on this matter is that you make new friends that are actually a true friend that would stick up for you in these kind of situations BROS B4 HOES!!! YEAA!!

EDIT: lol cuz i would like to see those tough guys come live in philly and try and do that shiz (pardon my language) here....hahahaha they would be the one's gettin jumped......so just think....they're a bunch of pu**ies (pardon my language again)....you have a problem you come talk to me...i live in the most dangerous city in the US....pcc

Philly is no Detroit Rob. Or for that matter, East Saint Louis or New Jersey.

lol come live here and find out.....philly has had more death's than any other city last year

wayy back in my freshman year there was some "gansta" kid who kept messing with me...he was twice my size, and every day he would push me around, so one day i got get up with it and stbbed him in the chest with a pen... ya sure i got suspended for it, altho i should have gotten expelled i didn't, because shortly after that the kid respected me alot more... and he denied that the wound bled to the principle... altho i saw it threw his shirt the day it happened... but, this isnt about me,,,i guess what i'm trying to say is, if the principles dont do anything about it, and there is nothing anybody else can do about it, then you may have to just face them... dont let people push you around... do what ever you can to stop them from doing that...

Stuff like that happens to me . (Obviously not as bad.) I would say just keep low and fade into the background. Also make new friends. When things like this happen at school the only people that can make you feel better about yourself are them.

[Oscar]

well, I would suggest finding other bigger friends and have them jumped[:)] That'll set them straight.

Basically what everybody is saying, keep low, and try to make as many friends as possible. Strength in numbers, dude. If you have people willing to back you up and it's not just you, maybe those d*cks will back off.

And set up perimeter turrets at your house.

Also, do you know why James' girlfriend lied about the threats?

Originally posted by R92CP

Basically what everybody is saying, keep low, and try to make as many friends as possible. Strength in numbers, dude. If you have people willing to back you up and it's not just you, maybe those d*cks will back off.

And set up perimeter turrets at your house.

Also, do you know why James' girlfriend lied about the threats?

ya i have a friend who is 6'3 and he knows jujitsu and kick boxing, plus i have alot of beastly friends... that always helps... they've always been there for me...so make some new friends...

You did the right thing. Without being racial at all, you said you whites were outnumbered and it is always shown that black teens like to do this kind of thing, in a gang or such. Moving to Florida would be cool. Also, the girl who "got your phone taken", I dont think she got it taken; given perhaps. Not many you can trust nowadays, eh? Good to hear the one kid got pressed charges too. They're stupid; how can they not realize they will get caught for really bad things like that.

yeah, just keep quiet and ignore then, maybe carry a knife when you're by yourself or something just in case but I doubt that they'll do anything.

I used to get bullied by this guy and once I punched him he stopped messing with me. Since I'm a small person, people like to try to bully me but they don't know my strength. Now I have "people" who would take care of stuff for me... big and strong people lol. Some of my friends are big enough that noone would mess with them.

I can't really add anything beyond what everyone else has already said, but just out of curiosity, what started all this? Bullying like this doesn't usually happen for no reason (not in my experience anyway, I guess I've been lucky though, seeing what some of you guys have gone through).